Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Lahore- A snippet...

I woke up to an aroma of spicy curries and freshly baked naan wafting up to the second floor, through the corridor, under our door and into our room, drawing us out of bed. I pulled the crumpled white sheets over my head willing myself to go back to sleep. I heard Poh Ling climb out of bed and then the sound of the shower running.

I buried my face in my pillow, smiling. It was all still hazy but I remembered him smiling. The warmth of his embrace enveloping me like a new born wrapped tight in fresh woolen blankets. A gentle sigh escaped under my breadth, wishing that it was more than a mere dream, reminiscing the sweet memory of a night of passion, still fresh in my mind.

“Hey, wake up!”

The hot water gushed out of the shower. Soothing, massaging. As I soaped myself, I thought about the journey. Nine or so hours spent on the plane and in transit. Hours I spent thinking about what lay ahead in Lahore, indulging on long day-dreams of him. How much I missed his smile, how the pillow was a poor substitute for his shoulders and how he would frown when I told him I watched ‘Walk the Line’ on the Kris flyer screen without him.

I reached for the towel and proceeded to dab myself dry. I made a mental checklist of the itinerary today. First breakfast, then sightseeing to Lahore Fort, the Shabadshi Masjeed, lunch, shopping and then the Wagha border.

I was excited. Pakistan had always been a destination I knew I was destined for. I can’t quite explain it but from the first instance I read South Asian history- the separation of 1971, the 3 wars of liberation and independence fought on this sub-continent, I had felt the strongest desire to see India, Pakistan and Bangladesh. A desire that runs deeper than that of a tourist wanting to enjoy exotic sights, it was a desire that signaled deeper linkages of fate and destiny.

All through breakfast, I thought about how I had already fulfilled my dream of breathing thick spicy Indian air, when I spent a month refurbishing a school in Ludhiana in Winter of 2004 and, a year later, building a school in the middle of lush Patiala fields. Now, in a completely different phase of my life, I was staying at the Pearl Continental Lahore. It was a far cry from the 3 bedroom house I shared with 19 other Singaporeans in Patiala, India. I was here on business, not for volunteer work. I was here for a mere 5 days and not 21 days. I had grown, but I had not grown out of my love for South Asia.

I stepped out of the doors of the hotel. The dusty roads of Lahore beckoned, inviting me to partake in its revelry…but not before I send him another sms…

Saturday, February 18, 2006

lahore



"He who has not yet seen Lahore, has not been born!"
I'm looking forward to being reborn....

Thursday, February 16, 2006

best friends


sonia celebrates her 27th year today

... i didn't get to celebrate her 17th, 18th, 19th, 20th, 21st, 22nd, 23rd, 24th, 25th, 26th and now 27th birthday with her...its just not quite the same when a person's not by your side...not an arm length's away...

so i can drop her an email...call her...chat with her over msn even...but its just not the same to be able to hug your best friend and tell her that you celebrate her existence in this world...because without her...your life just wouldn't have been the same...that she made you laugh that much harder...that she was the only one you could be honest with about your deepest darkest secrets...she was the only one you were sure wouldn't laugh when you shared your deepest desire...your wondrous dreams...

i remember when Sonia left for Sydney...11 years ago...it literally felt like my world fell apart...that i would never find someone else to laugh and share with the way i could with her...sometimes i look back and i laugh at my young naive self...but now i realise i was right all along... i never did find someone else to laugh and share with the way i could with her...

i look back over the last 11 years...distance has not allowed us to grow apart...we grew into individuals with different dreams, opinions and goals...but yet our friendship stayed the same. Every couple of years...when we meet...it feels like no time had lapsed in between...we always picked up where we left off...speedily catching up...so that we do not become victims of time and distance...but instead beneficiaries...

happy birthday son...remember the time we stalked the cast of Les Mis....remember the time we were U2....remember nightshade, miriabella...remember the Bafoons...remember Mersing...remember Sentosa and the paddle boats...remember the Exorcist...remember the rolling game...remember tequila night...remember LEX...remember...

i'll never forget the time past...and i look forward to the times ahead...

today i celebrate my best friend...may your life be filled with laughter, love and lots and lots and lots and lots of happiness...

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

confessions of 1 unmarried woman



the sushi conveyor belt. u have an almost endless variety of plates to pick from. u look at the first one that comes along. u pick it up. it looks good. ur enticed. but u keep wondering whether something better will come along. so u put it back. the next few plates are new. they're different. but they're not quite the same as that first one. they all pale in comparison. u turn back to look for that first plate you had let go. but its gone. u keep thinking. it'll come back. but it doesn't.

thank god. thank god. i don't have regrets like that.

i watched confessions of 300 unmarried men with iman last night. it was a play full of promise. but it was one of unfulfilled promises. ok. some. like the sushi 'sonnet' was ridiculously uninspiring. it was unoriginal. it was flat. it didn't surprise me. it didn't take my breadth away. it didn't feel like it even tried.

i liked the old man birdie episode, that was inspiring. three old men reflecting about their own lives through metaphors of their caged singing birds. the crazy horse episode was mildly funny. the boys in hot shorts with golden tassle tails attached were entertaining but not quite hilarious. i was tickled but not quite amused. the energy of the ensemble was rock bottom and the effort to raise it seemed so overwhelming that sometimes even i felt tired.

that said. i really liked benjamin ng- who in my opinion saved the entire production. He was likeable and his acting was effortless. His potrayal of a lowly educated Singaporean man in search of a bride willing to marry down was so raw that it felt honest. It was affront without being offensive. It made me laugh. It made me think.

and gay unmarried men's opinion was so under-represented. why? especially as it would have added a tinge of fun, a peppering of spice that the production desperately needed. not to over-sensationalise? to represent the real opinions of unmarried men. are straight men beginning to feel overlooked? is that why gay issues were touched on so lightly?

confesssions. i confess...i didn't think very much of it. there were moments where it felt intimate. it felt honest. but other times it just felt whiny and overplayed.

confessions. i confess.

iman. i think very much of. moments of intimacy. honesty. never whiny or overplayed.

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Friday, February 10, 2006

heartbreak

have you ever loved something or someone so much that the very thought of losing them can bring tears to your eyes? i have... and when i did lose that someone... it not only brought an unending stream of tears...but it also brought me to my knees...i was broken.

since then...i've distanced myself from heartbreak...i loved liberally but somehow always kept my distance...hiding behind rationality and pragmatism...so that every new relationship that ended was dealt with as little emotion as possible...

last night i realised that i haven't invested myself completely in a relationship in a long time...the last time i fell in love it was with someone that was so far away that it was easy to say...i loved...and i wanted so much for it to work out...but it was never meant to be anyways...it wouldn't have worked out anyways... it was good while it lasted... i was prepared from the very beginning for it to end...not in the fairy tale way i had imagined...but the way it actually did...

is there something completely wrong with me? how is it i can love someone...and yet at the same time say...but...but there's so many reasons why it won't work out... and you should be prepared for that...he's too far...he's too young...he's too...whatever...

also...what i've never thought about is whether anyone has ever loved me so much that the very thought of losing me could bring tears to his eyes...until last night...

i'm feeling unsettled....

i've kept my distance...to shield myself from heartbreak...but now i realise that while i do that... i'm turning into what i'm protecting myself from...i don't want to be the source of another's sadness...i can't be that person...

i won't.

Monday, February 06, 2006

first week of feb with dunga the dragon


i've had..all in all..a wonderful first week of february.

january ended beautifully... i made my way to mersing again with dunga the dragon who was absolutely wonderful company... of course..dunga's morning dragon cum ogre disposition could have frightened many away...yet i found it quite pleasant and looked forward to dunga's dreadly early morning grumpy spells...

i don't have a picture of dunga the dragon..but i do have a picture of leo the lion... who can be quite grumpy... but nothing beats dunga's dreadly disposition!...

if dunga was here...i'd squeeze dunga tight...kiss dunga all over...hug dunga like there's no tomorrow...

of course aunt nis the ever delightful host made everything that much more brighter and breezier... i love mersing..i'm dying to run back there...away from everything...

oh and of course...it's lunar new year...did i mention i love yu-sheng...i love to lo-hei..my personal best was 14 lo-heis during the 15 days... i don't think i'm going to break my record this year... only have had 4 yu-sheng's... the first one with ali and iman...boy was it a good one... and hey...if yesterday's yu-sheng was to be the last it would have been with ali and iman as well...nice...

oh and i just have to add another picture..of lil' marc...isn't he gorgeous...i can't wait to have my own....

its been a fabulous first week of february.....